#56: Am I The Asshole | Man Goes On Hunger Strike Over Mac & Cheese
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What's up Wikimaniacs! In today’s episode, we have a husband who goes on hunger strike after his wife makes mac and cheese, a daughter runs away from home, and a Mother's Day celebration is cancelled!
Do you think these people were assholes? Let us know!
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- AITA for serving my husband's family Mac N Cheese for dinner?
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Speaker:in today's episode, we have a wife who makes Mac and cheese
Speaker:for
Speaker:dinner.
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Speaker:So am I the asshole for serving my husband's family, Mac and cheese
Speaker:for
Speaker:dinner?
Speaker:I
Speaker:would say
Speaker:I would say no.
Speaker:Mac and
Speaker:cheese is a delicious.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And you can make it like
Speaker:more, I guess,
Speaker:fancy.
Speaker:Oh, I don't,
Speaker:but I enjoy
Speaker:it.
Speaker:but.
Speaker:There's a, this like a, I wouldn't say chain, but there's like a restaurant
Speaker:with like two locations here in Houston.
Speaker:That's
Speaker:straight up only Mac and
Speaker:cheese.
Speaker:Oh, that sounds amazing.
Speaker:That's
Speaker:Jess Mac.
Speaker:They got sued by McDonald's which gave them more
Speaker:clout actually.
Speaker:Oh,
Speaker:I
Speaker:love
Speaker:that that's sick.
Speaker:McDonald's should just buy them and then put them
Speaker:in
Speaker:all
Speaker:of their restaurants.
Speaker:Please
Speaker:know.
Speaker:Wait, what then it'd be available to everyone.
Speaker:I
Speaker:no, we don't want McDonald's to have more money.
Speaker:Do
Speaker:we?
Speaker:No,
Speaker:No, that's true.
Speaker:Actually
Speaker:me, the guy who fights against
Speaker:capitalism, every episode,
Speaker:one that gets mad at me for bringing up positive
Speaker:Amazon
Speaker:news.
Speaker:We
Speaker:can't,
Speaker:this
Speaker:is what, Maggie's does to me, it makes me
Speaker:weak.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Available Mac and cheese at every corner.
Speaker:I'm down for that.
Speaker:But, uh, so hopping into the story, she goes on to say, my, and then in brackets,
Speaker:Asian and I in brackets, American welcomed our first born four weeks ago.
Speaker:your weight, I'm very confused.
Speaker:you said my bracket,
Speaker:Asian,
Speaker:my husband.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:cool.
Speaker:That wasn't.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Sorry.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So
Speaker:my Asian husband and I,
Speaker:American
Speaker:I don't know It's w
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:that's that's okay.
Speaker:I was going to hop on this because I was like, that's not a race.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Cause I'm I'm American.
Speaker:and Asian.
Speaker:Wow.
Speaker:It's got
Speaker:a
Speaker:crazy.
Speaker:wild.
Speaker:You can be
Speaker:both.
Speaker:So not on a great foot to start things off, so she says, we welcomed
Speaker:our first born four weeks ago.
Speaker:The baby is healthy, but I'm exhausted.
Speaker:Haven't fixed my hair, barely able to shower and cannot sleep.
Speaker:My husband's family has been pressuring us
Speaker:to visit, to meet the baby.
Speaker:I tried to hold them off as much as I could, but yesterday I was surprised to
Speaker:find them
Speaker:standing on the porch.
Speaker:Turn
Speaker:turns out my husband invited
Speaker:them
Speaker:for dinner
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Without telling
Speaker:no,
Speaker:Oh, I would be so mad.
Speaker:my wife gets mad at me if I like invite dudes that don't care.
Speaker:If the house is.
Speaker:she'll be
Speaker:like, wait,
Speaker:to clean, like, the baseboards, like everything in the house
Speaker:before people
Speaker:come.
Speaker:I'm like guys that are here.
Speaker:Like that honestly would not notice.
Speaker:She's like 30 minute notice.
Speaker:I'm going to kill you.
Speaker:And I'm like, honestly,
Speaker:yeah, there's probably on
Speaker:me.
Speaker:Yeah, I do the quick sweep, put the dishes away.
Speaker:I'm like, I
Speaker:house looks
Speaker:clean
Speaker:then.
Speaker:and I'm like,
Speaker:Not, so, she says I was embarrassed and felt like I wasn't ready for
Speaker:visitors because the house was a mess.
Speaker:Y'all
Speaker:can I get a
Speaker:y'all
Speaker:Sean from
Speaker:a Texan,
Speaker:You're doing a good
Speaker:yell.
Speaker:but
Speaker:I wanted
Speaker:to hear you.
Speaker:say it
Speaker:Oh, okay.
Speaker:Y'all
Speaker:we go.
Speaker:Thank you.
Speaker:he's a professional
Speaker:Asian cowboy.
Speaker:Asian cowboy.
Speaker:Cowboys, a race now.
Speaker:anyway, my husband sat with them while I fed my son.
Speaker:Then later I asked my husband, if we should order takeout for dinner,
Speaker:he said no,
Speaker:because his parents would find
Speaker:this rude
Speaker:and
Speaker:unwelcome.
Speaker:he suggested that I go inside the kitchen and prepare something.
Speaker:Anything as long as it's
Speaker:homemade.
Speaker:no,
Speaker:no,
Speaker:No,
Speaker:no,
Speaker:no,
Speaker:bro.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Four weeks.
Speaker:For
Speaker:She's She's four weeks removed from pushing a human
Speaker:through her
Speaker:body.
Speaker:And
Speaker:just
Speaker:your baby.
Speaker:You get off your ass and fucking make some
Speaker:shit,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Or why can't you get takeout.
Speaker:And also he didn't even tell her it was happening.
Speaker:So
Speaker:if he asks him for dinner,
Speaker:he
Speaker:should
Speaker:planned
Speaker:the dinner
Speaker:anyways
Speaker:and
Speaker:gave her
Speaker:notice.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:I can get what, maybe it is like a cultural thing.
Speaker:Like that's not my culture, but you know, I don't know.
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:Asians, a
Speaker:vast
Speaker:countries are a continent, but I mean, I can get it if like home cooked meal
Speaker:is required, but if that's the case,
Speaker:You
Speaker:do it?
Speaker:You knew, you knew that was a rule and you invited them without telling you what.
Speaker:you cook the fucking
Speaker:meal.
Speaker:Also like she's four weeks with
Speaker:like having this
Speaker:four week old.
Speaker:Like, I feel like most in-laws are families.
Speaker:they would be bringing
Speaker:the cooking, like,
Speaker:in-laws they would say like, Hey,
Speaker:will come for dinner to see the baby, but
Speaker:we'll
Speaker:bring
Speaker:dinner
Speaker:just cause so you don't have to.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:or be totally okay with ordering in like,
Speaker:I think when my sisters gave birth, my mom.
Speaker:Came with food.
Speaker:And like, my sisters lived out of state.
Speaker:She like
Speaker:traveled to the, and just help to do like stuff around the house
Speaker:while my sister like, recovered
Speaker:because
Speaker:no,
Speaker:exactly.
Speaker:That's
Speaker:a you
Speaker:mom
Speaker:too.
Speaker:My mom would make
Speaker:like Meals
Speaker:that
Speaker:you could freeze
Speaker:and then like give them to her so she could keep them and then
Speaker:just
Speaker:make
Speaker:them
Speaker:easy.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:You, you try and help
Speaker:not hinder
Speaker:yeah, not put fucking more stress on the.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:unfortunately it gets much worse, so we're
Speaker:going
Speaker:to
Speaker:keep
Speaker:going.
Speaker:The
Speaker:beginning.
Speaker:I said I was fine then went and made some Mac and cheese.
Speaker:The reason I prepared this meal is because of how easy it is, once I served
Speaker:the family, my husband's mom looked
Speaker:at me and was appalled.
Speaker:She asked
Speaker:if I really found it appropriate to serve her and her family,
Speaker:Mac and
Speaker:cheese,
Speaker:I asked why not?
Speaker:And she went on a rant about how disrespectful this was and that
Speaker:I clearly have no experience in what is right and wrong
Speaker:when
Speaker:it
Speaker:comes to
Speaker:hosting.
Speaker:Uh, she didn't even
Speaker:know
Speaker:she was hosting.
Speaker:She didn't even know
Speaker:she was going
Speaker:to
Speaker:be hosting.
Speaker:that's when the husband needs to come to her aid and say, listen, I
Speaker:actually didn't give her any notice.
Speaker:she's exhausted.
Speaker:I'm going to make a bold prediction and assume that's not
Speaker:what
Speaker:happens.
Speaker:John's a smart man.
Speaker:I'm sure.
Speaker:Sienna also assume that's
Speaker:what
Speaker:happened.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I also see she's saying what should happen, what a
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:What any normal
Speaker:person
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:I said, excuse me, who said, I signed up to host and expected visit from them.
Speaker:And she took it as if I didn't want them there.
Speaker:Her husband said that they were just there to finally see the baby that I've kept
Speaker:them
Speaker:seeing for an entire.
Speaker:that that's a whole month of his life.
Speaker:They
Speaker:quote unquote
Speaker:missed out
Speaker:on.
Speaker:We had
Speaker:an
Speaker:and they decided
Speaker:to go
Speaker:home.
Speaker:my husband said that deciding to serve his family, Mac and cheese was more offensive
Speaker:than serving
Speaker:them
Speaker:nothing
Speaker:at
Speaker:all.
Speaker:Come on.
Speaker:for that?
Speaker:Oh
Speaker:my
Speaker:God.
Speaker:I told him I was too exhausted to cook their traditional fees that I was forced
Speaker:to learn from
Speaker:his mother.
Speaker:He took offense and said that I was being mean and disrespectful towards not
Speaker:his family,
Speaker:but his
Speaker:culture.
Speaker:I went inside the bedroom to stay with my son.
Speaker:My husband stayed on the phone with his family for an hour.
Speaker:Then kept giving me a cold shoulder and refuse to eat.
Speaker:What I cook in support of
Speaker:family
Speaker:Oh, he's on
Speaker:a
Speaker:hunger
Speaker:strike.
Speaker:It's fucking gone to you out here.
Speaker:I understand how some guests might find it offensive, especially as family, but I was
Speaker:just trying to make quick homemade meal.
Speaker:Like my husband wanted what's wrong with Mac and cheese?
Speaker:Am I
Speaker:the
Speaker:asshole?
Speaker:No,
Speaker:not
Speaker:at
Speaker:all.
Speaker:Good for her for standing up.
Speaker:Everyone's the asshole in this situation.
Speaker:The husband needed to communicate to his parents that listen, it's, she's tired.
Speaker:Like Absolutely come over see the baby, but it might not
Speaker:be like a full blown meal.
Speaker:Maybe.
Speaker:Unfortunately he communicated that it would
Speaker:be, so there was a lot of misunderstanding, but at the
Speaker:same time, like they all need
Speaker:to be
Speaker:way more
Speaker:understanding
Speaker:than.
Speaker:listen,
Speaker:like she just had a baby and she just found out about it.
Speaker:Like, I have to say the husband's the
Speaker:worst in
Speaker:this situation.
Speaker:And
Speaker:then parents need to be more understanding, I get them
Speaker:Wanting
Speaker:to see
Speaker:the
Speaker:baby,
Speaker:like,
Speaker:to be fair.
Speaker:Like if I had a child, like, I'd want my in-laws to see as
Speaker:soon
Speaker:as
Speaker:I was
Speaker:able.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:But I wouldn't just spring
Speaker:them on you.
Speaker:no, not at all.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I'd be like, Hey, my
Speaker:parents are coming two weeks
Speaker:from
Speaker:now.
Speaker:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker:And that's the thing, like how do I just ridiculous.
Speaker:I don't know.
Speaker:If I can sneak attack the in-laws on her.
Speaker:And it was like, oh, on top of the surprise, you didn't clean the house,
Speaker:but you do have to cook a fucking
Speaker:four course
Speaker:meal.
Speaker:they he didn't mention anything about the host being domestic.
Speaker:So
Speaker:brownie
Speaker:points.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:He's 100% of the biggest asshole in this situation.
Speaker:it's not hard
Speaker:to see
Speaker:he
Speaker:gets
Speaker:it
Speaker:from
Speaker:though
Speaker:And I get it a cultural thing.
Speaker:Like maybe there that's when they, when you ha
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:not sure,
Speaker:but like maybe when you have.
Speaker:people over to host it's expected like a four course
Speaker:but
Speaker:like
Speaker:this
Speaker:is
Speaker:special
Speaker:circumstance.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I think, I think culture
Speaker:can take a
Speaker:back
Speaker:seat
Speaker:when
Speaker:there's
Speaker:There's the
Speaker:mother,
Speaker:you know
Speaker:when a mother's just had a baby and is trying to just,
Speaker:keep both of themselves alive.
Speaker:that's her job basically is to keep herself and the baby.
Speaker:Uh, and this, she has this dipshit child.
Speaker:She also has to babysit called
Speaker:her
Speaker:husband's.
Speaker:I
Speaker:mean, I just had to wonder
Speaker:what the relationship
Speaker:was before
Speaker:that like, was she always hosting the parents and having
Speaker:to do this huge meal for them.
Speaker:Was the husband like supportive of the parents all the time.
Speaker:Like, I can't imagine this as
Speaker:out of
Speaker:nowhere
Speaker:and we
Speaker:touch on this a lot.
Speaker:actually, with the one with Chris, we had a couple.
Speaker:Where it's like, why did you marry this person?
Speaker:If
Speaker:this
Speaker:is
Speaker:what they're like?
Speaker:And I honestly, I have no answer.
Speaker:I mean, it's, I like you love parts of people and you try to accept other parts.
Speaker:And at the same time, you're, you can become trapped in relationships,
Speaker:like
Speaker:in a healthy relationship.
Speaker:And
Speaker:it's, it's one story.
Speaker:And like, maybe he's a great guy rest of the time, maybe.
Speaker:the hunger strike
Speaker:thing
Speaker:is
Speaker:that's hilarious,
Speaker:That'll
Speaker:show her.
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:it's like, great.
Speaker:I don't have to cook for you.
Speaker:Amazing
Speaker:less food to make
Speaker:more
Speaker:Mac
Speaker:and
Speaker:cheese
Speaker:for me.
Speaker:but maybe he feels like afraid of his mom or something like that.
Speaker:And, so this is a situation where maybe he's stressed, they're
Speaker:meeting the baby the first time and he's, could be a good person, just
Speaker:maybe a bad person in this
Speaker:scenario,
Speaker:but it's a
Speaker:pretty.
Speaker:sick.
Speaker:but I
Speaker:mean, this scenario lasted multiple hours.
Speaker:Like you should be able to like
Speaker:calm
Speaker:down and
Speaker:be like, oh yeah, I really should, uh, defend my wife and
Speaker:stop talking on the phone with
Speaker:my family and,
Speaker:Hunger
Speaker:striking.
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:And hunger striking and letting them tell me my wife is disrespectful.
Speaker:Like,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:don't know.
Speaker:so I think we can, 100% say you're not the asshole.
Speaker:your husband's an asshole.
Speaker:It's family sounds like, kind
Speaker:an
Speaker:so, yeah.
Speaker:I'm sorry.
Speaker:You
Speaker:have
Speaker:to
Speaker:deal
Speaker:that.
Speaker:I say
Speaker:that a lot
Speaker:at
Speaker:the
Speaker:of a lot
Speaker:of these stories,
Speaker:unfortunately.
Speaker:hopefully,
Speaker:I
Speaker:just
Speaker:talk
Speaker:to him and just, just, express
Speaker:how you're
Speaker:feeling and the stress you're on.
Speaker:I mean, he should
Speaker:understand,
Speaker:but men are dumb as we've learned, so you sometimes just have to be like, Hey, this
Speaker:is what's up.
Speaker:And maybe
Speaker:he'll
Speaker:be like, oh yeah,
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:an idiot.
Speaker:that's
Speaker:the
Speaker:best
Speaker:case
Speaker:scenario.
Speaker:I wonder if the best, like, I really wish everybody updated these all the time
Speaker:because the husband just must read the
Speaker:comments And be like,
Speaker:oh yeah.
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Like,
Speaker:true.
Speaker:That's true.
Speaker:I fucked up, I fucked that
Speaker:shit
Speaker:out for
Speaker:I
Speaker:wondering if someone has like wrote one of these and then seen our tech talks or
Speaker:something and it's just like, oh shit,
Speaker:that's me.
Speaker:I've made a big.
Speaker:Wow.
Speaker:I'm getting this steroid on Reddit and now also on
Speaker:ticktock.
Speaker:Oh, yeah, exactly.
Speaker:all right.
Speaker:With that, we
Speaker:will
Speaker:move on
Speaker:our next,
Speaker:am
Speaker:I
Speaker:the asshole?
Speaker:So am I the asshole for taking my daughter's
Speaker:bedroom
Speaker:away
Speaker:giving it to my son?
Speaker:Hm.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:Without context.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Do you have a little
Speaker:sibling
Speaker:Sienna?
Speaker:I have a younger brother and an older
Speaker:sisters.
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:the
Speaker:middle
Speaker:child.
Speaker:So
Speaker:imagine
Speaker:Luca.
Speaker:I
Speaker:mean,
Speaker:it'd be weird.
Speaker:Our room, our rooms growing up are beside each other.
Speaker:There's really like, they're both very similar rooms, so
Speaker:I don't understand why about
Speaker:whatever,
Speaker:but
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:so,
Speaker:I, a 32 year old male have a daughter.
Speaker:Uh, 14
Speaker:year old
Speaker:female
Speaker:from a previous relationship, I have full custody
Speaker:of
Speaker:her
Speaker:and her
Speaker:mom
Speaker:is
Speaker:not
Speaker:involved
Speaker:in
Speaker:her
Speaker:life.
Speaker:five years ago, I married my wife, Nina, a 31 year old
Speaker:female.
Speaker:We tried to have a child, but couldn't, we went to the doctor and
Speaker:it turned out I can't have any more kids due to some complications.
Speaker:So we decided to use a sperm donor and the result
Speaker:was
Speaker:my
Speaker:son mark,
Speaker:was
Speaker:a few
Speaker:months
Speaker:ago.
Speaker:That's awesome.
Speaker:The
Speaker:problem started when Nina got pregnant Harper.
Speaker:Wasn't happy about it.
Speaker:When
Speaker:mark was born,
Speaker:things
Speaker:got
Speaker:worse
Speaker:before this Harper and I used to spend two days a week together, just the two
Speaker:of us without my wife, but after mark was born, I couldn't do that anymore.
Speaker:I can't just leave my wife alone for two days a week with a newborn.
Speaker:And
Speaker:Harper
Speaker:has been very angry.
Speaker:The main
Speaker:problem started three days ago, Nina and I decided to make a nursery
Speaker:for mark instead of having them in our bedroom for multiple reasons,
Speaker:our home has four bedrooms, two master bedrooms
Speaker:on one
Speaker:side
Speaker:and two bedrooms
Speaker:on the
Speaker:other
Speaker:side,
Speaker:living fucking
Speaker:large hero.
Speaker:My God.
Speaker:What was
Speaker:the
Speaker:down payment
Speaker:on that?
Speaker:How's this come with two
Speaker:masters.
Speaker:I know that's weird, right?
Speaker:it a duplex?
Speaker:And then you just fucking broke down.
Speaker:The
Speaker:wall are
Speaker:It's that family, uh, you
Speaker:weren't even on that episode.
Speaker:Nevermind.
Speaker:No, I think I was
Speaker:the, couple
Speaker:that
Speaker:that
Speaker:shared a
Speaker:house.
Speaker:a duplex and had
Speaker:a door in the middle.
Speaker:yeah, that was weird.
Speaker:But if it
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I guess maybe if you're rich, there
Speaker:are two master
Speaker:bedrooms
Speaker:in
Speaker:your house.
Speaker:so, one of the master rooms is ours and the other one is Harper's.
Speaker:It was very hard for Nina and I to go to the other side of the house multiple
Speaker:times a night when mark wakes up.
Speaker:So I asked Harper to pack her stuff and go to the
Speaker:one
Speaker:of the
Speaker:other bedrooms.
Speaker:So
Speaker:we could give
Speaker:her room
Speaker:to
Speaker:mark
Speaker:At first everything seemed all right.
Speaker:She said, okay.
Speaker:And went to her room and started packing, but less than an hour, my brother showed
Speaker:up at our home
Speaker:asking for her.
Speaker:She had called
Speaker:them and asked
Speaker:him to take her.
Speaker:She came out of her room with her stuff, told me you can give it to
Speaker:your
Speaker:now
Speaker:and
Speaker:left with
Speaker:my brother.
Speaker:I told her she could only go for one
Speaker:night, but it's been three days and
Speaker:she's
Speaker:not back.
Speaker:And won't
Speaker:talk to
Speaker:me.
Speaker:That's kind of weird of the brother to dislike, not talk
Speaker:to the parents and be like
Speaker:the surprise.
Speaker:I'm here to pick up your daughter.
Speaker:She's going to sleep at my house now.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So, I'm receiving calls from my family, all calling me an asshole and other names.
Speaker:I don't trust their judgment they very clearly favor Harper.
Speaker:She was the first grandchild in our family and everyone's favorite.
Speaker:They're trying to accept mark as my son, but I could see that
Speaker:they haven't been able to yet.
Speaker:So I decided to post here and get some unbiased opinions.
Speaker:MIV.
Speaker:Oh, that sounds tough.
Speaker:This one's tough.
Speaker:There's not like a big asshole.
Speaker:Like I understand the, the new wife wanting him around to be around the sun.
Speaker:Like your new sign.
Speaker:you can't leave her alone for like two straight days.
Speaker:I get that.
Speaker:And I understand
Speaker:wanting a bedroom
Speaker:near them.
Speaker:They need that for safety reasons and everything like that.
Speaker:and I
Speaker:understand
Speaker:Harper
Speaker:being
Speaker:hurt
Speaker:by
Speaker:that.
Speaker:Like
Speaker:there's
Speaker:like,
Speaker:I don't like, and to be fair, we don't know the relationship between.
Speaker:The stepmom, I
Speaker:guess in Harper.
Speaker:I hope
Speaker:they were trying
Speaker:sounds
Speaker:family.
Speaker:oh,
Speaker:sorry.
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:I thought you meant the
Speaker:no, no, no, The like the stepmom, like I hope they have a good relationship.
Speaker:Maybe they don't and maybe this is where's that stemming from, but , that's tough.
Speaker:I don't know if he is the asshole, not , I think he needs to try a little bit harder
Speaker:to maybe communicate and maybe you can
Speaker:dedicate
Speaker:one
Speaker:day
Speaker:a
Speaker:week
Speaker:now.
Speaker:Like.
Speaker:my brother-in-law
Speaker:went back
Speaker:to
Speaker:work
Speaker:after
Speaker:like
Speaker:a
Speaker:few weeks.
Speaker:And so my sister was alone with a
Speaker:baby quite a bit.
Speaker:So I mean, like
Speaker:it's doable.
Speaker:I understand why you want them
Speaker:there, but maybe
Speaker:compromise.
Speaker:Yeah, it's a lot of changes.
Speaker:And how
Speaker:old did they say the baby was?
Speaker:a
Speaker:they say at all A few
Speaker:months.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I mean, that's still a lot of change in a short amount of time.
Speaker:So
Speaker:I
Speaker:think
Speaker:he's
Speaker:of
Speaker:an
Speaker:asshole.
Speaker:your daughter lost her mom.
Speaker:And so you're the only thing she really has.
Speaker:I
Speaker:mean,
Speaker:has her step-mom
Speaker:obviously,
Speaker:but
Speaker:it's
Speaker:not
Speaker:quite the same.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Well,
Speaker:it
Speaker:might,
Speaker:it
Speaker:might be that, but
Speaker:it might, it's also like,
Speaker:you're her father.
Speaker:You're all she has.
Speaker:Quote unquote.
Speaker:and so she, maybe she feels like you're turning your back on her.
Speaker:abandoning her just like her mom did and that's traumatizing
Speaker:for
Speaker:her.
Speaker:And,
Speaker:I mean,
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:worst.
Speaker:You
Speaker:should
Speaker:at
Speaker:least
Speaker:spend time with her, for sure.
Speaker:definitely a hundred percent.
Speaker:You should give her your time.
Speaker:You have two kids, you made this decision.
Speaker:She did not
Speaker:make
Speaker:this
Speaker:decision.
Speaker:You have to go.
Speaker:give
Speaker:50% of your attention and love to both sides.
Speaker:I know the baby is going to be, it's going to be stressful.
Speaker:And there's like, the baby is, you know, a lot of work.
Speaker:but you made that decision and you've got to live with it.
Speaker:And, if your daughter doesn't feel appreciated or loved and
Speaker:neglected, then that's on you, man.
Speaker:Like you gotta,
Speaker:you
Speaker:gotta man
Speaker:up
Speaker:and,
Speaker:take responsibility
Speaker:and
Speaker:try
Speaker:and
Speaker:make
Speaker:it
Speaker:right
Speaker:with.
Speaker:with your.
Speaker:Yeah, I think for sure, like I'm sure your new wife doesn't want to walk,
Speaker:but I mean, maybe you have to take that responsibility and you walk to the baby.
Speaker:You, you know, I don't know.
Speaker:It seems how big is
Speaker:your fucking
Speaker:house to.
Speaker:what I mean, like, it's gotta be pretty far for it to.
Speaker:be like maybe
Speaker:it
Speaker:is
Speaker:so
Speaker:far that it
Speaker:would
Speaker:be a safety issue, like
Speaker:having the
Speaker:baby that
Speaker:far,
Speaker:but if that's the case, then you just gotta, like,
Speaker:I don't know, like you already know your
Speaker:daughter's pissed off cause she doesn't get
Speaker:the two days.
Speaker:and you haven't made any sort of compromise.
Speaker:You kind of just cut that off and then out of the blue, you're going to be
Speaker:like, actually you gotta fucking pack
Speaker:your shit up.
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:move out of your bedroom.
Speaker:So here's what I would have probably tried to propose.
Speaker:So he says there's four bedrooms, two of the bedrooms, or the
Speaker:masters in there beside each other.
Speaker:And then the other two are right beside each other as well.
Speaker:So why not?
Speaker:Why
Speaker:not,
Speaker:exactly.
Speaker:Why not
Speaker:move your bedroom to
Speaker:one of those bedrooms and then just have
Speaker:them just temporary until you feel more comfortable.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So that's
Speaker:an option and then that way.
Speaker:it doesn't feel
Speaker:like
Speaker:you're
Speaker:cutting
Speaker:your
Speaker:daughter
Speaker:out.
Speaker:Yeah, just set up a bed and make the nursery and then like in the other
Speaker:master bedroom, maybe, and then I can just put your bed in there too.
Speaker:So Eugena some nights you're in there with the baby and I don't know.
Speaker:I dunno asleep like a baby.
Speaker:It's not right.
Speaker:No, I agree.
Speaker:Yeah, you don't want to sleep with the baby, but yeah, but
Speaker:yeah, having, having that
Speaker:separation where you're, uh, like between the two
Speaker:beds.
Speaker:Yeah, it makes sense.
Speaker:But yeah, why not?
Speaker:You move instead of making your daughter
Speaker:make all these changes
Speaker:in her life,
Speaker:just
Speaker:to
Speaker:make
Speaker:you
Speaker:more comfortable.
Speaker:with that.
Speaker:Also, there must, there must be some kind of like beef.
Speaker:I, it
Speaker:sounds
Speaker:like
Speaker:there's beef between him and his family.
Speaker:Cause like, if I have a good relationship with, my sister and my
Speaker:kids, or my niece is fighting with my sister, I'm not just going to
Speaker:fucking
Speaker:show
Speaker:up
Speaker:and just pick her up and be like, stay with
Speaker:me.
Speaker:Like
Speaker:has to have been a lot of things that.
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:escalated.
Speaker:I won't necessarily dunk on the brother just because I don't know
Speaker:what he said or what she said
Speaker:to him.
Speaker:and he could just be being a good uncle, looking out for her.
Speaker:I
Speaker:agree.
Speaker:He probably
Speaker:shouldn't
Speaker:like
Speaker:he should try and get his dog like her, uh, his niece to communicate
Speaker:with.
Speaker:her
Speaker:dad, but I don't know the situation on that side, but, I
Speaker:wanted to
Speaker:say that
Speaker:I don't, I
Speaker:don't
Speaker:want it on him
Speaker:too
Speaker:much.
Speaker:No,
Speaker:That's
Speaker:fair.
Speaker:And
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:I
Speaker:feel
Speaker:for
Speaker:the
Speaker:daughter mostly, but
Speaker:I mean, I think the main thing was they needed to figure
Speaker:out
Speaker:compromise in that situation and let her
Speaker:know that she still loved and
Speaker:stuff
Speaker:because
Speaker:have guessed.
Speaker:She
Speaker:wasn't
Speaker:getting.
Speaker:that.
Speaker:So that is it.
Speaker:I think you're kind of an
Speaker:asshole.
Speaker:I don't
Speaker:know where
Speaker:you guys
Speaker:stand
Speaker:on
Speaker:that
Speaker:one.
Speaker:Yeah, I'll go kind of,
Speaker:Yeah,
Speaker:can,
Speaker:can come
Speaker:back
Speaker:from this?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:It's yeah.
Speaker:He's
Speaker:not
Speaker:a
Speaker:dam.
Speaker:he's not the worst
Speaker:hassle we've
Speaker:ever
Speaker:had for sure.
Speaker:not even
Speaker:close.
Speaker:No,
Speaker:the
Speaker:guy
Speaker:before
Speaker:was
Speaker:way worse.
Speaker:what
Speaker:about
Speaker:you, Sean?
Speaker:You,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:my stance is kinda just like nobody's too far.
Speaker:removed from asshole status.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:It's kinda just like take a step back and realize, you know, you did probably fuck
Speaker:up.
Speaker:It's a,
Speaker:it's
Speaker:a fuck
Speaker:rather than actively
Speaker:being
Speaker:an asshole,
Speaker:I
Speaker:guess.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:He's more on the side of asshole.
Speaker:The not asshole, but also
Speaker:not too far.
Speaker:We only
Speaker:have two
Speaker:judgments
Speaker:here.
Speaker:So it's,
Speaker:it's very
Speaker:difficult.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:all right.
Speaker:so we're going to hit an ad break and then after the ad break,
Speaker:we
Speaker:actually have an update
Speaker:to
Speaker:this story.
Speaker:Oh,
Speaker:Oh,
Speaker:good.
Speaker:That is
Speaker:exciting.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:They do love an update.
Speaker:So
Speaker:uh, stay tuned
Speaker:for
Speaker:that
Speaker:and
Speaker:we'll be right back.
Speaker:All
Speaker:right.
Speaker:We
Speaker:are back
Speaker:Deanna, how you hanging
Speaker:in.
Speaker:So good.
Speaker:Yeah, That
Speaker:was
Speaker:the
Speaker:longest
Speaker:ad break
Speaker:of my life
Speaker:there so long.
Speaker:I
Speaker:make her
Speaker:sit
Speaker:here and listen
Speaker:to
Speaker:them.
Speaker:all of
Speaker:our guests,
Speaker:Yeah, I was actually just me for 10 minutes telling you why you
Speaker:should be paying $25 to us a month
Speaker:Patriot.
Speaker:no, it was just him begging magic spoon to sponsor us
Speaker:I
Speaker:a protein
Speaker:here.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:This is the proteins.
Speaker:were looking it up.
Speaker:It looks good.
Speaker:We talked
Speaker:about
Speaker:it
Speaker:in
Speaker:the
Speaker:last
Speaker:time and he asked him,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I want to get it, but it's also like $11 a box.
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:like this cereal
Speaker:worth.
Speaker:And if
Speaker:they sponsor us, we'll say that's worth
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Oh yeah.
Speaker:Honestly.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:That's great.
Speaker:I fucking love magic spoon guy.
Speaker:so, I left you on a little bit of a cliffhanger, uh, as
Speaker:I'm getting good at doing.
Speaker:there is actually an update to the story about, the man
Speaker:who
Speaker:away his daughter's bedroom
Speaker:and gave
Speaker:it to his son.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:He writes in this post, he says, here's the update that I promised.
Speaker:I realized I've messed up.
Speaker:So I went to my brother's home and tried to get Harper back,
Speaker:but he didn't even let me see
Speaker:her
Speaker:saying
Speaker:she
Speaker:doesn't
Speaker:want
Speaker:to
Speaker:see
Speaker:me.
Speaker:okay.
Speaker:which,
Speaker:I mean, I
Speaker:guess
Speaker:like
Speaker:to respect
Speaker:wishes,
Speaker:but
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:don't
Speaker:you can't force.
Speaker:out a little,
Speaker:I
Speaker:mean,
Speaker:I
Speaker:guess
Speaker:I can't force her to do anything, but it's a weird situation, I guess, for him.
Speaker:he said he would only let
Speaker:her
Speaker:go
Speaker:back.
Speaker:If
Speaker:one,
Speaker:she
Speaker:wanted
Speaker:to go with
Speaker:me.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:too.
Speaker:We moved to another home, closer to their home because they
Speaker:wanted to have Harper close
Speaker:to them
Speaker:to keep
Speaker:an
Speaker:eye
Speaker:on
Speaker:her
Speaker:and make
Speaker:sure we
Speaker:are
Speaker:treating her right.
Speaker:We used to live very close to them, but when we got married at my wife
Speaker:and my family didn't get along.
Speaker:So we moved somewhere farther
Speaker:away,
Speaker:which
Speaker:made
Speaker:Harper
Speaker:very
Speaker:sad.
Speaker:a
Speaker:whole
Speaker:moving
Speaker:house.
Speaker:That's a
Speaker:big.
Speaker:Well,
Speaker:it
Speaker:sounds
Speaker:like
Speaker:they
Speaker:move
Speaker:just
Speaker:to
Speaker:get
Speaker:away
Speaker:from
Speaker:them.
Speaker:For,
Speaker:for the
Speaker:wife
Speaker:That's tough.
Speaker:also living close
Speaker:to
Speaker:them
Speaker:doesn't
Speaker:mean
Speaker:you
Speaker:have
Speaker:to
Speaker:see
Speaker:them
Speaker:all
Speaker:the
Speaker:time.
Speaker:Yeah,
Speaker:is starting
Speaker:true.
Speaker:some
Speaker:questions
Speaker:for
Speaker:it
Speaker:is.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So
Speaker:there's
Speaker:clearly
Speaker:you know, maybe the stepmom doesn't treat hyper very well.
Speaker:I mean, we can't say for sure, but it sounds like she's
Speaker:at least doesn't get along
Speaker:with them,
Speaker:family,
Speaker:which
Speaker:is
Speaker:awful.
Speaker:Did they do a
Speaker:little bit?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I don't
Speaker:I honestly, I don't know.
Speaker:It's, it's a weird situation.
Speaker:Uh, number
Speaker:three, Harper
Speaker:will get
Speaker:to
Speaker:choose which bedroom she wants
Speaker:in our
Speaker:house.
Speaker:Fine.
Speaker:Fair.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:She'll
Speaker:probably
Speaker:pick the
Speaker:one
Speaker:she
Speaker:was
Speaker:in
Speaker:Are they helping
Speaker:finance this house.
Speaker:this
Speaker:is
Speaker:a,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:That's the thing
Speaker:like,
Speaker:huge
Speaker:fucker.
Speaker:Well they sound,
Speaker:market,
Speaker:they sound pretty rich.
Speaker:Okay guys.
Speaker:I dunno.
Speaker:They got four, Two master
Speaker:bedrooms.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:and then number four, I should spend one-on-one time
Speaker:with Harper
Speaker:at
Speaker:least one day
Speaker:a week.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:That
Speaker:one's
Speaker:fair.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So
Speaker:the three of
Speaker:the four
Speaker:of
Speaker:those
Speaker:are, are
Speaker:valid asks.
Speaker:I think
Speaker:the,
Speaker:moving
Speaker:is
Speaker:a
Speaker:little
Speaker:bit
Speaker:much like
Speaker:job wise.
Speaker:too.
Speaker:Well, I
Speaker:don't
Speaker:know.
Speaker:Well, we don't know
Speaker:how
Speaker:far
Speaker:it is, right.
Speaker:Maybe it's just a few
Speaker:streets.
Speaker:city town.
Speaker:With the pack
Speaker:with
Speaker:new kid actually.
Speaker:Yeah,
Speaker:that's the biggest
Speaker:Asking you to move is a Crazy.
Speaker:Easy.
Speaker:That's a crazy.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I don't
Speaker:know if I'd,
Speaker:I,
Speaker:don't
Speaker:think
Speaker:I'd
Speaker:accept
Speaker:that
Speaker:one.
Speaker:We had a four,
Speaker:I maybe make it so number two, I'd maybe switch it to, the
Speaker:family can have Harper once a week
Speaker:or something Like that, so that they still, you know, are in
Speaker:her life and get to keep an eye
Speaker:on her
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Maybe we just plan more
Speaker:events together.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Like why, why move an entire house?
Speaker:Insane.
Speaker:It's like, you know, you know, he's going to say no,
Speaker:Well, he goes on to say, I accepted
Speaker:all
Speaker:of
Speaker:these
Speaker:Wow.
Speaker:Dang.
Speaker:Instant.
Speaker:I'm a dumb ass.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I
Speaker:had
Speaker:to
Speaker:let you
Speaker:make
Speaker:your claim
Speaker:before I shoved it in your
Speaker:face.
Speaker:I appreciate it.
Speaker:And he goes on to say, this caused a lot of problems since my wife.
Speaker:Doesn't like some
Speaker:of
Speaker:those conditions,
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:guessing
Speaker:it's
Speaker:number
Speaker:two,
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Which
Speaker:is
Speaker:fair.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:But as as the wife, I mean, I don't know, like maybe you don't, you don't
Speaker:have to go to the hangout, but like you should be trying to Harper is
Speaker:your
Speaker:daughter
Speaker:as
Speaker:well.
Speaker:You need to be trying to make sure she's happy.
Speaker:I agree.
Speaker:But
Speaker:I
Speaker:think
Speaker:if
Speaker:they,
Speaker:I think
Speaker:you can't,
Speaker:but you
Speaker:can't, you can't agree to
Speaker:moving.
Speaker:And I tell you
Speaker:without
Speaker:talking
Speaker:to
Speaker:your
Speaker:wife
Speaker:about
Speaker:it.
Speaker:and
Speaker:then she'd be like,
Speaker:Hey
Speaker:we're
Speaker:moving.
Speaker:For sure.
Speaker:I
Speaker:had, I'm hoping that he talked to, I just assumed that that's what happened,
Speaker:but you're right.
Speaker:That,
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:I don't know.
Speaker:You could
Speaker:still
Speaker:be
Speaker:the
Speaker:asshole
Speaker:here.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:so she thinks they are not reasonable.
Speaker:She got angry, took mark and went to
Speaker:her parents
Speaker:and is staying there.
Speaker:So
Speaker:now
Speaker:I'm also
Speaker:receiving
Speaker:texts
Speaker:from my
Speaker:in-laws
Speaker:calling
Speaker:me an
Speaker:asshole.
Speaker:right now I'm looking for a new home that is closer to my brother's home.
Speaker:I called Harper and my brother convinced her to talk to me for once she was
Speaker:crying the whole time telling me that she felt like I didn't want her anymore
Speaker:hearing her cry like this really broke
Speaker:my heart.
Speaker:I honestly never
Speaker:meant to hurt her after so many apologies and gifts.
Speaker:She finally agreed to see.
Speaker:I will go to my brother's home every day to spend time with her.
Speaker:She has also
Speaker:finally
Speaker:agreed
Speaker:to come
Speaker:home
Speaker:with me
Speaker:when
Speaker:I
Speaker:find
Speaker:a
Speaker:new
Speaker:home.
Speaker:Uh, yeah, that's the update.
Speaker:Sorry, there's more here, but I don't know what NC means.
Speaker:no,
Speaker:unlike
Speaker:lot
Speaker:of
Speaker:you said my child,
Speaker:isn't
Speaker:going
Speaker:NC
Speaker:with
Speaker:me.
Speaker:I don't know what that
Speaker:means.
Speaker:I'm not a hip with the lingo,
Speaker:And
Speaker:see,
Speaker:lingo.
Speaker:I feel so old Googling.
Speaker:What does
Speaker:NC
Speaker:I know
Speaker:that's literally what Josh is doing
Speaker:North Carolina.
Speaker:network,
Speaker:computer
Speaker:I don't care.
Speaker:convenient.
Speaker:I have no idea what it would mean.
Speaker:Maybe
Speaker:they
Speaker:live in
Speaker:Newcastle,
Speaker:Do you have
Speaker:no
Speaker:contact.
Speaker:Is
Speaker:that
Speaker:what
Speaker:it
Speaker:would
Speaker:mean?
Speaker:Like not
Speaker:going
Speaker:no contact
Speaker:with
Speaker:me,
Speaker:like
Speaker:a
Speaker:no
Speaker:contact
Speaker:order.
Speaker:I
Speaker:don't
Speaker:know.
Speaker:Oh,
Speaker:maybe
Speaker:I don't
Speaker:know.
Speaker:No class.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:sure what that
Speaker:means,
Speaker:but anyway,
Speaker:he
Speaker:wrote
Speaker:that
Speaker:into the end there.
Speaker:So,
Speaker:a
Speaker:weird
Speaker:ending,
Speaker:I
Speaker:don't
Speaker:know if
Speaker:I can.
Speaker:Good one Like a little bit the daughter, Oh, I totally understand.
Speaker:I totally understand what she's going through, but I also I'm
Speaker:how
Speaker:old she
Speaker:and if it's, this
Speaker:a
Speaker:manipulative,
Speaker:not
Speaker:knowing
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Like maybe like,
Speaker:then obviously she's a
Speaker:Like
Speaker:there's
Speaker:nothing
Speaker:to
Speaker:blame
Speaker:on
Speaker:her,
Speaker:but
Speaker:like
Speaker:that's
Speaker:a
Speaker:lot
Speaker:to
Speaker:like,
Speaker:make
Speaker:your
Speaker:dad
Speaker:move
Speaker:a house
Speaker:It's it's honestly insane that the family is
Speaker:like,
Speaker:demanding.
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:like I don't know.
Speaker:I could never ask somebody to
Speaker:fucking move a
Speaker:house.
Speaker:No,
Speaker:Like the
Speaker:hangout
Speaker:with me,
Speaker:more
Speaker:show
Speaker:that
Speaker:you
Speaker:care,
Speaker:like,
Speaker:I get
Speaker:to
Speaker:change my bedroom back.
Speaker:Like those are totally fair.
Speaker:And have the wife absolutely
Speaker:show
Speaker:some effort and
Speaker:want
Speaker:to hang
Speaker:out
Speaker:with her
Speaker:Go see
Speaker:her too.
Speaker:But
Speaker:the way.
Speaker:Understandably
Speaker:upset as
Speaker:well.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I don't know.
Speaker:Who's more on the wrong because the wife and the
Speaker:family
Speaker:both
Speaker:give
Speaker:me
Speaker:a
Speaker:bit
Speaker:of an
Speaker:off
Speaker:feeling.
Speaker:Cause
Speaker:I don't
Speaker:what,
Speaker:happened?
Speaker:Why there must have
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:happened?
Speaker:wonder if she was like,
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:No,
Speaker:I
Speaker:don't
Speaker:want
Speaker:to tell talk.
Speaker:say, cause It's
Speaker:all
Speaker:hearsay.
Speaker:So it's like, I don't know if she was the other woman, like,
Speaker:And
Speaker:that's
Speaker:what
Speaker:caused
Speaker:oh
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:I,
Speaker:Well then
Speaker:why
Speaker:would
Speaker:he take full custody
Speaker:of the daughter that way?
Speaker:Yeah, that makes sense.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:There's a lot
Speaker:of things
Speaker:are missing
Speaker:in
Speaker:the context
Speaker:of
Speaker:this
Speaker:So,
Speaker:I
Speaker:mean, I guess
Speaker:if it works for,
Speaker:for them good
Speaker:for them, but it sounds like it's going to cause a bit of
Speaker:a tear in your relationship.
Speaker:I'd maybe try and, you know, iron things out where it's like, okay,
Speaker:we'll
Speaker:hang out.
Speaker:We'll
Speaker:do
Speaker:all
Speaker:this
Speaker:other
Speaker:stuff.
Speaker:I'll
Speaker:try
Speaker:and
Speaker:make
Speaker:more
Speaker:of
Speaker:an, effort.
Speaker:Yeah, because dude is just living in his four bedroom, two
Speaker:master
Speaker:yeah, by himself
Speaker:right
Speaker:now.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Which
Speaker:is
Speaker:very depressing.
Speaker:So
Speaker:I'm sorry.
Speaker:You're kind of caught in this because, I, I
Speaker:also don't
Speaker:think
Speaker:you're
Speaker:an
Speaker:asshole.
Speaker:You seem
Speaker:to
Speaker:be
Speaker:like
Speaker:someone
Speaker:who's
Speaker:he's trying to,
Speaker:but the problem is
Speaker:everybody's
Speaker:telling him
Speaker:different things
Speaker:are
Speaker:the
Speaker:right
Speaker:thing.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:You've kind
Speaker:got
Speaker:to
Speaker:find a middle
Speaker:ground
Speaker:here
Speaker:and
Speaker:that's
Speaker:going to be,
Speaker:you
Speaker:sides got to
Speaker:compromise.
Speaker:yeah, exactly.
Speaker:So, that's the update.
Speaker:I'm going to say not the
Speaker:asshole now.
Speaker:You've got a lot of work to do, uh, to iron, a lot of this
Speaker:stuff
Speaker:out,
Speaker:but, it seems
Speaker:you're
Speaker:trying
Speaker:at
Speaker:least
Speaker:which I commend.
Speaker:good.
Speaker:Keep
Speaker:trying,
Speaker:I
Speaker:want
Speaker:we we've heard, we've heard, some sad stories, but this one is like, oh, so
Speaker:sad, like very depressing.
Speaker:like, the other ones just make me angry.
Speaker:Like I can't be like, oh
Speaker:gosh, how
Speaker:dare
Speaker:they do
Speaker:that?
Speaker:This
Speaker:is
Speaker:just like,
Speaker:oh
Speaker:no,
Speaker:this
Speaker:is
Speaker:unfortunate.
Speaker:This'll pop on Tik TOK.
Speaker:I know
Speaker:it.
Speaker:All of us, just being
Speaker:very sad to him.
Speaker:I feel bad
Speaker:for these people.
Speaker:all right.
Speaker:Time to get mad again.
Speaker:am I the asshole for canceling the mother's day celebration that
Speaker:I
Speaker:arranged
Speaker:for
Speaker:my
Speaker:wife
Speaker:after
Speaker:hearing
Speaker:what
Speaker:she told me.
Speaker:Well,
Speaker:what did she say?
Speaker:I haven't got into that.
Speaker:so I, a 37 year old male have
Speaker:a 13 year old
Speaker:son.
Speaker:I was a widower.
Speaker:When
Speaker:I met my
Speaker:now wife.
Speaker:She has a 16
Speaker:year
Speaker:old daughter
Speaker:from another relationship.
Speaker:The family is often on pretty good terms.
Speaker:my son
Speaker:the
Speaker:quiet
Speaker:in the house
Speaker:keeps
Speaker:to himself a lot.
Speaker:but
Speaker:not
Speaker:to
Speaker:the
Speaker:point of
Speaker:being
Speaker:concerned.
Speaker:My
Speaker:wife
Speaker:and stepdaughter are the complete opposite.
Speaker:They both encourage them
Speaker:be outgoing
Speaker:and
Speaker:share
Speaker:activities
Speaker:and
Speaker:gatherings with
Speaker:the
Speaker:extended
Speaker:family.
Speaker:my son complained about having to be forced out of his comfort zone and
Speaker:having his need for space invalidated.
Speaker:I spoke to both my wife and stepdaughter and asked them to give
Speaker:them space
Speaker:and freedom to spend his
Speaker:time.
Speaker:However
Speaker:he
Speaker:wanted,
Speaker:they
Speaker:apologized
Speaker:and
Speaker:promised
Speaker:to let
Speaker:them.
Speaker:as mother's day was approaching, I wanted to throw
Speaker:my
Speaker:wife
Speaker:surprise mother's day celebration.
Speaker:How's it a
Speaker:surprise
Speaker:if it's mother's
Speaker:surprise this mother's
Speaker:day
Speaker:I didn't
Speaker:forget.
Speaker:it
Speaker:was
Speaker:no longer
Speaker:a
Speaker:because
Speaker:my
Speaker:stepdaughter
Speaker:gave
Speaker:her the
Speaker:heads
Speaker:up
Speaker:so she
Speaker:could.
Speaker:yesterday I got off work earlier than usual to get final arrangements
Speaker:done, we planted celebrate at
Speaker:the restaurant
Speaker:and invited
Speaker:her
Speaker:family
Speaker:there.
Speaker:I had the key and while I was entering
Speaker:house through
Speaker:front door,
Speaker:I overheard my
Speaker:wife
Speaker:and stepdaughter
Speaker:talking
Speaker:to my son.
Speaker:My wife was asking my son, if he could convince
Speaker:me
Speaker:to
Speaker:let
Speaker:him
Speaker:stay
Speaker:home
Speaker:and
Speaker:not
Speaker:go
Speaker:with
Speaker:them
Speaker:to
Speaker:the
Speaker:restaurant
Speaker:to
Speaker:sell.
Speaker:I
Speaker:paused and decided
Speaker:to keep listening
Speaker:as
Speaker:you
Speaker:both
Speaker:are.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I'm like things just got interesting.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:My son said why.
Speaker:And she told him that he's introverted and is socially inept attitude
Speaker:will make
Speaker:her family
Speaker:uncomfortable and will ruin the mood.
Speaker:He promised her that he would be well behaved and would
Speaker:try
Speaker:to interact
Speaker:socialize with everyone.
Speaker:But
Speaker:she said
Speaker:that
Speaker:she wasn't buying
Speaker:it.
Speaker:He kept reassuring her, but she snapped and told them that
Speaker:technically she's not as mom.
Speaker:So she didn't get why he wanted
Speaker:to
Speaker:celebrate
Speaker:mother's
Speaker:day with her
Speaker:so
Speaker:badly.
Speaker:Oh, my fucking God, not only is the party
Speaker:canceled.
Speaker:The fucking marriage is
Speaker:canceled,
Speaker:bro.
Speaker:That's all.
Speaker:So someone said that to my son.
Speaker:I'm throwing hands.
Speaker:I don't care.
Speaker:Wow.
Speaker:So in this episode,
Speaker:we can maniacs.
Speaker:Josh has said, fuck Asian culture, and that he would put hands on a woman.
Speaker:You heard it here first
Speaker:I
Speaker:would
Speaker:never
Speaker:do
Speaker:that.
Speaker:hands on Sienna.
Speaker:Oh, no, I wouldn't do that.
Speaker:But,
Speaker:yeah,
Speaker:absolutely
Speaker:crossing a line,
Speaker:um, saying that
Speaker:to any
Speaker:child,
Speaker:let
Speaker:alone
Speaker:someone
Speaker:you
Speaker:supposed to
Speaker:be a mother to
Speaker:ridiculous.
Speaker:I can't believe she fucking well, the whole, the whole premise of the
Speaker:conversation is insane, but to end it with, I'm not even your fucking mom,
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:Oh,
Speaker:my gosh.
Speaker:If
Speaker:introverted, like
Speaker:what
Speaker:is
Speaker:he going to do?
Speaker:Like
Speaker:what?
Speaker:It's not like
Speaker:throw a tantrum at
Speaker:the
Speaker:restaurant?
Speaker:Or
Speaker:say
Speaker:weird stuff.
Speaker:Like,
Speaker:he's just
Speaker:not
Speaker:going to
Speaker:talk.
Speaker:It's like,
Speaker:is that
Speaker:the really
Speaker:the
Speaker:worst
Speaker:thing
Speaker:as an introvert
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:but the worst thing that could happen is.
Speaker:You just quiet, you sit them at the end of the table and
Speaker:he just
Speaker:eats his food, whatever,
Speaker:whatever, like,
Speaker:let them, let them
Speaker:be
Speaker:there
Speaker:celebrate
Speaker:with
Speaker:also.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:What are we doing at a restaurant that requires so much extroverted
Speaker:energy?
Speaker:If I can just sitting and eating and talking, but I mean, like, it's not
Speaker:like he needs to fucking get up and
Speaker:run around
Speaker:and he's going
Speaker:to
Speaker:No.
Speaker:Yeah, the
Speaker:Chuck E cheeses
Speaker:and
Speaker:you're going
Speaker:to
Speaker:playing
Speaker:the
Speaker:arcades.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Sounds great.
Speaker:It does sound
Speaker:great.
Speaker:so, uh, he continues on, says my stepdaughter threw some, I don't
Speaker:remember, but backhanded comments,
Speaker:and
Speaker:then both
Speaker:of
Speaker:them
Speaker:were shocked
Speaker:to see
Speaker:me
Speaker:standing.
Speaker:there.
Speaker:both were staring without saying anything.
Speaker:I told my son and his stepsister
Speaker:to go
Speaker:to
Speaker:their
Speaker:rooms,
Speaker:then
Speaker:tell
Speaker:my
Speaker:wife
Speaker:that
Speaker:the
Speaker:celebration
Speaker:was
Speaker:off.
Speaker:she tried to argue asking why repeatedly.
Speaker:And I told her why she explained that she didn't mean
Speaker:it
Speaker:like that.
Speaker:And
Speaker:I only
Speaker:heard
Speaker:part
Speaker:of
Speaker:the
Speaker:conversation,
Speaker:but
Speaker:not all of
Speaker:it.
Speaker:I told her I was done arguing and the decision was made, She yelled, asking what
Speaker:I was going
Speaker:to tell
Speaker:her
Speaker:family
Speaker:and
Speaker:said
Speaker:that
Speaker:I was
Speaker:making
Speaker:a tremendous
Speaker:mistake towards her.
Speaker:I ignored
Speaker:her while
Speaker:she kept
Speaker:throwing
Speaker:tantrum.
Speaker:After
Speaker:tantrum
Speaker:earlier this morning, she took my stepdaughter
Speaker:and went to
Speaker:stay with their folks, not a single call or text from her.
Speaker:So far situation is full of tension.
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:still.
Speaker:but more hurt to be honest.
Speaker:I mean, yes.
Speaker:I did say I was going to have the celebration, but I thought
Speaker:that
Speaker:what
Speaker:she
Speaker:to
Speaker:my
Speaker:son was too harsh
Speaker:to
Speaker:ignore.
Speaker:Am
Speaker:I
Speaker:the
Speaker:asshole?
Speaker:no.
Speaker:no.
Speaker:no.
Speaker:I mean, in some sense, like, yeah, maybe you're only hearing half
Speaker:the
Speaker:conversation.
Speaker:And so
Speaker:in
Speaker:one world, maybe the son was being so, so rude to her and she
Speaker:was like, K, well then don't.
Speaker:come.
Speaker:But
Speaker:still
Speaker:even
Speaker:the comment about
Speaker:not being
Speaker:your mother
Speaker:would
Speaker:have
Speaker:been
Speaker:handy at that
Speaker:point
Speaker:as
Speaker:well.
Speaker:Oh, you're not as mother
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And celebration.
Speaker:And it didn't
Speaker:sound like
Speaker:it didn't sound
Speaker:like
Speaker:that was
Speaker:the
Speaker:type of
Speaker:conversation
Speaker:anyways,
Speaker:that
Speaker:he's
Speaker:confrontational.
Speaker:It
Speaker:seems like
Speaker:he
Speaker:was
Speaker:trying
Speaker:to
Speaker:argue that
Speaker:he
Speaker:he should
Speaker:come.
Speaker:To celebrate
Speaker:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker:oh,
Speaker:that
Speaker:makes
Speaker:me
Speaker:so
Speaker:sad.
Speaker:This
Speaker:makes
Speaker:me
Speaker:sad
Speaker:again.
Speaker:Why
Speaker:did
Speaker:you
Speaker:choose
Speaker:this
Speaker:store?
Speaker:Sorry,
Speaker:I just want to be mad.
Speaker:That's sad.
Speaker:my
Speaker:bad.
Speaker:uh,
Speaker:I wanted
Speaker:to feel
Speaker:different
Speaker:emotions.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:We
Speaker:always
Speaker:get
Speaker:mad.
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:always
Speaker:sad.
Speaker:That sounds
Speaker:so bad.
Speaker:but I like, I just
Speaker:have I'm very emotional.
Speaker:We're painting a lot about, uh,
Speaker:we're learning a lot about Josh.
Speaker:no,
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:just kidding.
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:uh, Um, so that is it for this episode.
Speaker:What did you think wicked maniacs where these people assholes?
Speaker:Were they
Speaker:in the right
Speaker:were these
Speaker:stories
Speaker:just
Speaker:playing sad?
Speaker:Next time CNAs on, we got to have
Speaker:nothing but shitty
Speaker:men
Speaker:stories.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:Thank
Speaker:you.
Speaker:Literally
Speaker:the
Speaker:whole time,
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:always sending him
Speaker:to
Speaker:talks of
Speaker:men
Speaker:being
Speaker:bad,
Speaker:like
Speaker:was that your idea?
Speaker:Sierra?
Speaker:Cause I was so mad.
Speaker:I was so heated, the point where I couldn't
Speaker:say anything, I was
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Oh yeah.
Speaker:but it's just like, cause I go off
Speaker:when I
Speaker:see
Speaker:these things
Speaker:too, and I'm just
Speaker:like,
Speaker:and
Speaker:I'm
Speaker:sure
Speaker:you're
Speaker:sick of
Speaker:it, but I'm like,
Speaker:all this
Speaker:saying all this
Speaker:stuff.
Speaker:And
Speaker:he's
Speaker:like,
Speaker:I
Speaker:know,
Speaker:I don't
Speaker:agree
Speaker:with
Speaker:it but I still
Speaker:have
Speaker:to
Speaker:say
Speaker:my opinions
Speaker:I'm like, I read it every
Speaker:week.
Speaker:I
Speaker:know
Speaker:how
Speaker:shitty they are.
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:Yeah,
Speaker:we
Speaker:got
Speaker:next
Speaker:week though.
Speaker:You're
Speaker:coming
Speaker:up.
Speaker:Monday.
Speaker:Oh,
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Next
Speaker:week
Speaker:from
Speaker:one
Speaker:we're recording
Speaker:in 10
Speaker:minutes
Speaker:from when we're actually recording it.
Speaker:Um, yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:so, let us know your thoughts
Speaker:down
Speaker:in
Speaker:comments,
Speaker:on YouTube or
Speaker:on
Speaker:our
Speaker:website,
Speaker:or
Speaker:you
Speaker:can
Speaker:just
Speaker:tick doc, we'll
Speaker:have
Speaker:it
Speaker:on Tik
Speaker:TOK
Speaker:Instagram.
Speaker:You
Speaker:can
Speaker:comment
Speaker:anywhere and we'll, we'll,
Speaker:see
Speaker:it.
Speaker:anything
Speaker:you
Speaker:would
Speaker:like to
Speaker:say
Speaker:before
Speaker:sign
Speaker:off,
Speaker:I don't have,
Speaker:my
Speaker:own
Speaker:podcast.
Speaker:So
Speaker:Do you have
Speaker:an Amazon wishlist as a teacher?
Speaker:I don't know.
Speaker:Does Canada have a good enough education system to
Speaker:where teachers don't have to
Speaker:buy their
Speaker:own
Speaker:oh no,
Speaker:you
Speaker:have to buy everything
Speaker:through your
Speaker:classroom.
Speaker:Hit up
Speaker:Amazon wishlist, Sienna.
Speaker:it's
Speaker:it's
Speaker:probably better
Speaker:than
Speaker:America,
Speaker:but
Speaker:it's
Speaker:not
Speaker:great.
Speaker:Well paid Well, depending on state
Speaker:yeah, I
Speaker:guess depending on the state,
Speaker:but
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Speaker:Next week, Sean and I
Speaker:are
Speaker:actually going
Speaker:to be
Speaker:doing
Speaker:listener submitted MIT assholes.
Speaker:We decided,
Speaker:uh,
Speaker:we're
Speaker:going
Speaker:to hop
Speaker:on
Speaker:it.
Speaker:Cause
Speaker:there
Speaker:is
Speaker:a
Speaker:ton of submissions
Speaker:coming in
Speaker:and we gotta
Speaker:wait,
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Speaker:know, getting down
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Speaker:So, uh, we're
Speaker:gonna be doing that next week.
Speaker:So stay
Speaker:tuned for that.
Speaker:thank you,
Speaker:Sienna
Speaker:and
Speaker:Sean
Speaker:of course.
Speaker:Oh.
Speaker:And if I may plug something, I know probably
Speaker:they've
Speaker:shut it
Speaker:Absolutely not.
Speaker:Okay, cool.
Speaker:I'll see you guys on Monday.
Speaker:Love you.
Speaker:Uh, my co-host on shots and thoughts.
Speaker:He is a clothing brand got accepted at the largest anime
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Speaker:Yeah, we'll, we'll put a link to, both of those, if I remember in the show notes.
Speaker:Uh, Good plug Sean, thank
Speaker:you,
Speaker:wicked maniacs
Speaker:for another amazing episode,
Speaker:we
Speaker:will
Speaker:see
Speaker:you
Speaker:on
Speaker:Monday.
Speaker:Bye.